I was taught at Halt Abuse that the best way to keep drama out of my life is to ban the drama-mongers and not get into arguments with people - just ban them if they cause trouble for me.
Well, I brought that teaching into other areas of my online life, but trying to be subtle about it backfired spectacularly: I've gained a new hater and... I'll be staying out of certain places in future.
I suppose I should be grateful: the new hater has proclaimed to the heavens what I was trying to keep quiet, which will save me the bother of deleting stuff I don't want on the Golden Quill Awards. Basically, people who wank about me aren't welcome. Why people have a problem with this I'll never know. Anyway, the list is getting longer, it seems. *Eyeroll*
I mean, really - why should I give prizes to people who mistreat me?
And *HOW* is it abuse to refuse to have dealings with such people in any shape or form?
What's next: Mugger of the Year? I presume it's not mugging if it's my bag getting nicked, and "only" snatched with no actual violence. Pfft!
Well, this will leave more room for people who don't generally win stuff, which can only be a good thing.
I look forward to receiving nominations for stories from other fandoms: Tolkien legendarium is unlikely to dominate this year like it did before.
It seems my stance is causing difficulties for some people. I'll leave it for a week and see how things go. If it comes down to it, I may end up having to make a special club or group for this. I wanted to leave it open, though.
Messages have trickled in along the lines of, "Wendy, your stance is upsetting people. You should change your mind."
Okay, what's in it for me? What do I get if I do? If there's any advantage in changing my mind, I will. So far, I can't see one: I doubt that all the carping and other stuff will cease, whatever I do. Which is WHY I made that decision in the first place.
I was right.